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Personal Growth and Decision-Making

Personal Growth and Decision-Making

Joyful Memories with Jasper, Chloe, and Jashel Kaye at SM CDO Rooftop Park
Fun times at the SM CDO Downtown Premier Rooftop Park with Chloe and Jashel Kaye (Sept 16, 2018).

In this situation, I've made a tough but clear decision. It's time for both of us to find healing and peace separately. It’s not an easy choice, but it's the right one for me, especially thinking about our kids. They are my main focus now.

We will be infinitely more peaceful when we decide not to waste any more time arguing with each other for not understanding. I will be okay with being misunderstood because you can only understand from your level of perception.

I believe in moving forward and learning from everything that happens. It's important for me to stand up for myself and for what I believe is right. It's hard, but I think it’s best to let things calm down first.

My priority is our children's well-being. Everything I do is for them. As for us, our paths are splitting here. I hope you also find the strength to move on and be happy.

It's also crucial for me to work on myself. This situation has shown me areas of my life that I need to improve. I'm committed to doing that work, not just for the sake of our children, but for my well-being and growth.

Your struggles haven't gone unnoticed. I hope you find the support and help needed to face and overcome whatever challenges lie ahead for you. Healing is a personal journey, and I respect yours, just as I am navigating my own.

If a time comes when you think of returning, we need to be clear about our intentions. From what I've seen and learned, if someone comes back, it can mean they didn't find what they were looking for elsewhere, or they might not have the right reasons for returning. Both situations are tough, not just for the person coming back but for the one who's been waiting. This isn’t just me thinking out loud; it’s a reality many people face, and it’s something I want to approach with caution.

We need to be honest with ourselves about why we would consider reconciliation and what it truly means for both of us and our children. Rebuilding trust and respect is a two-way street and requires genuine effort and commitment from both sides. It's not about the past anymore; it's about what we want for the future and whether it's something we see aligning together.

In all of this, my aim is not to close doors but to set boundaries that protect us from further hurt. It’s about understanding what’s best for our growth, individually and possibly together, with a clear mind and a hopeful heart.

True peace comes from accepting that misunderstandings happen. We can only understand each other based on our background and experiences, so let's be patient and try to see things from each other's point of view. Sounds nice but it’s hard.

I wish for both of us to find peace and fulfillment, whether that's together or apart. Moving forward, it’s about making choices that lead to happiness and health, not just for us, but most importantly, for our children. They deserve the best we can give them, which starts with us being our best selves.

Lenslo

Fond memories at our Cambridge Iponan home, captured on March 19, 2018
Click Album 👉 Fond memories at our Cambridge Iponan home, captured on March 19, 2018.

For new readers looking to understand the backstory of these cherished moments, I recommend exploring our previous entries. Delve into our journey of trust and redemption in the blog post A Journey of Trust and Redemption and uncover the valuable insights from The Builder's Lesson of 2023: Art of Perseverance.

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