How does JMG deal with rejection?
"Dili gyud siya accurate, pero dool ra sa tinood." -VanDave-
You can apply it to any part of your life that you've experienced, your professional life or what careers and work opportunities you want to explore, your social life, and anything else you may be turning down. From here, it will help you with something you learned in your journey that helped you deal with failure avoidance, so read the whole blog to know exactly the best case strategy to deal with it so that you can continue to level as "Isa Kang Sakalam."
Dealing with rejection
You've had to learn that the hard way, where there are periods in your life where everything happens for a reason. It's going to happen in life. If you're not facing rejection or failure in life, you're probably not doing enough. I wasn't getting rejected, I wasn't failing, and I wasn't necessarily succeeding either, but that was because I wasn't taking enough action. So rejection means that you're doing something you're following through on your move because, without it, you're probably not doing as much as you think you need to, so that's the mindset that JMG wants you to have around rejection.
Two ways that you can deal with rejection as a man.
So JMG is going to talk about both. Let's start with the
1. Negative way.
Well, man, I got rejected. Nannette didn't text me back. She didn't like my project proposal. I applied for a subcontractor and was rejected. I didn't get it. I'm a loser; I'm a failure. Every single guy gets rejected. They take it very much to heart, and what they do creates a downward spiral of negative emotions. Negative thoughts and just beliefs about yourself keep going down and down, and the more bad things happen to you, the more it triggers your confirmation. Bias makes you think you're more and more of a loser. Sometimes JMG acts this way. I suck. Everything I try doesn't work out, and it just it's a perpetual ending cycle of negativity, but it doesn't have to be everything that does not have to be personal.
At some point in my (Lenslo's) life
It's a matter of time. If you're staying stagnant for your entire life, you're probably not going to get rejected, and that, to be honest, is the loser's way of reaching success. If you want never to face failure, you want never to face rejection, never face judgment from others, never do, and don't do anything. Stay where you're, don't visit the project site, don't browse for the project list on Philgeps, stay on the couch, keep getting fat and lazy, and fire yourself up. This is tormenting many modern men because they're scared to face rejection. They're afraid to face failures in life, so to prevent themselves, they stop. They don't even try. They don't do anything.
The girl didn't like you,
She didn't want to talk to you,
She thought you were stupid,
You have to be infinitely abundant with your mindset. You have to have the mentality that I am okay with; however this thing plays out, I'm outcome-independent. Just because one thing did not work out doesn't mean you'll get the same result with another proposal, bidding, or quotation.
If JMG gets rejected, JMG is still a cool construction company. It doesn't affect me as a man at all. It would help if you didn't think that reflected your manhood. It's not. I know some guys might make the argument. That kind of thinking is like you're avoiding rejection altogether.
But JMG doesn't think that's avoiding rejection. JMG trying to talk is, "yeah, I got rejected. I did get rejected, but I'm not gonna let that rejection define who I am as a man". Sure that, that person didn't like me, I didn't get that bidding competition, I know I didn't land that client, I didn't do this, but I'm still going to keep going, I'm still going to keep trying and putting myself out there and taking action and testing myself. I'm just learning how to deal with it as a company leader because it is a part of life. Regardless of what anybody tells you, failure and rejection it's a necessary step to being successful in life. I don't care who you are; I don't care what you're doing; I don't care what you want to do. Every person who achieves anything in life will face these, so JMG is simply introducing you to a new mindset of meeting them and dealing with them in a much more productive and efficient way.
I believe that everyone needs to learn how to take a hit in life physically and metaphorically in order to keep moving forward because the resilient are the ones who get the best results and make it out the other side. I know some of us engineers to have sensitive egos, and we take things very personally. It doesn't reflect on you as a man. Just take it in stride. Take your lumps.
- JMG doesn't care how successful he is. (sanaol)
- JMG doesn't care how much money he makes.
- JMG doesn't care how much status he has.
- JMG doesn't care how good-looking he is (char)
- Inevitably, even a man who is good at courting a woman will also experience failure or rejection from the girl. But once in JMG's life, a woman rejected him. JMG doesn't care.
2. Positivity in this is the high-value way to deal with rejection.
Which is the opposite perspective. Everything in life is perspective. You can have the same type of rejection.
She didn't want to talk to you,
She thought you were stupid,
She thought you were corny, creepy,
Whatever job didn't accept you, you can have that same event happen to you, the same rejection but a completely different mindset. You can think, I don't like her anyway, or you know what, that project location isn't really what I thought it was, not for us. You can change your mindset and start thinking, "well you know what that project, it's just not for our team; We can find something better. I can find something else."
You have to be infinitely abundant with your mindset. You have to have the mentality that I am okay with; however this thing plays out, I'm outcome-independent. Just because one thing did not work out doesn't mean you'll get the same result with another proposal, bidding, or quotation.
If JMG gets rejected, JMG is still a cool construction company. It doesn't affect me as a man at all. It would help if you didn't think that reflected your manhood. It's not. I know some guys might make the argument. That kind of thinking is like you're avoiding rejection altogether.
But JMG doesn't think that's avoiding rejection. JMG trying to talk is, "yeah, I got rejected. I did get rejected, but I'm not gonna let that rejection define who I am as a man". Sure that, that person didn't like me, I didn't get that bidding competition, I know I didn't land that client, I didn't do this, but I'm still going to keep going, I'm still going to keep trying and putting myself out there and taking action and testing myself. I'm just learning how to deal with it as a company leader because it is a part of life. Regardless of what anybody tells you, failure and rejection it's a necessary step to being successful in life. I don't care who you are; I don't care what you're doing; I don't care what you want to do. Every person who achieves anything in life will face these, so JMG is simply introducing you to a new mindset of meeting them and dealing with them in a much more productive and efficient way.
I believe that everyone needs to learn how to take a hit in life physically and metaphorically in order to keep moving forward because the resilient are the ones who get the best results and make it out the other side. I know some of us engineers to have sensitive egos, and we take things very personally. It doesn't reflect on you as a man. Just take it in stride. Take your lumps.
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